I'm working with someone now whose baby is over 6 months old. It is unusual that I work with a mom whose baby is passed the newborn age, but it happens. What tends to happen is that a mom is considering adoption when she first delivers and decides not to go forward, but things don't work out as planned, and for some reason, she needs to call us again.
On one hand, I think it must be so much harder to go forward after this time and this attachment. But I saw how emotional this mom was when her baby was first born. May be it hurts so much now that she has had to back away emotionally from the process a bit. I also wonder if she feels more sure about this plan b/c she has given it her all to parent. She tried to make this happen, but feels like she is not able to consistently provide the stability she wants to.
I wonder which process is easier (as if any of this is easy) to deal with emotionally for the long-term. Do the memories help or prolong the healing?